How to Handle a Trigger.
- Think positive:
Yes, it has become trendy not to be so positive and instead affirm negative thoughts. But since our emotions control our thoughts and sometimes unwittingly become self-fulfilling. It is better to be smart and think positively.
Question the emotions:
Resist the temptation to act instinctively and let emotions guide your choices and decisions. Stop yourself and question your emotional state. Why do I feel this way? Is there any particular reason? What consequences would my emotionally driven acting have? Take a two-minute breather.
Now It is difficult to do this because the emotional part of the brain is almost always stronger than the logical one. However, with practice and a little effort you can do this.
Practice giving rational thinking a chance. Then you create time to think a little and avoid spontaneous whims that may not always be the best choice in all situations.
- Identify your “triggers.”
What special situations, and or certain people create the reactions that you have the most challenging time? Take stock of the situations.
Look at your surroundings and your everyday life. Try to identify what the “triggers” are and why your mood is mainly triggered sometimes. Can you avoid the kind of situations or people that affect you negatively, in whole or in part? Negative people create negative energy, If it is not possible to avoid them altogether, then you must try to distract yourself from overcoming the emotions.
Breathe deeply and counting backward from 50 are simple tricks that, with a bit of practice, can work when you feel emotionally pressured. And if possible avoid them or walk away when you can.
- Take responsibility for what you feel:
We can seldom influence what other people think and do. However, we can always influence how we choose to react and respond to other people’s actions. When we blame our negative expressions and feelings on others, it is often because we choose to close our eyes because we always have our responsibility for our actions and feelings.
Take that responsibility. Choose for yourself how you want to react to what others say to you and what they do. Is there any logical reason for their actions? Familiarize yourself with the other party’s thoughts and situation.
For example. criticism that you receive. Can the criticism even be justified? Instead of breaking down and thinking you are worthless and unsuccessful, you can choose to take criticism with a grain of salt.
- Accept the feeling:
When you feel something is less comfortable, try to allow the feeling. Accept that it is there. Accepting is just about seeing it for what it is without judging. Put words to the feeling; if you are angry, admit that you are angry even if you do not think it is appropriate, if you are sad, admit it and maybe allow yourself to cry if necessary, the same principle with other emotions.
What happens when you admit to yourself what you feel, you have an excellent opportunity to make a healthy decision about how you handle yourself.
- Actively change emotional state:
Something happens, and you may not have the opportunity to do something or communicate about it to someone right then. An effective way is to change your emotional state. The fastest way is usually to make sure you breathe calmly. Take it one breath at a time
- Take time-out:
Sometimes it can be too much. Then the very best advice is to take a time-out and take a step back from everything that you get upset, stressed and angry about before you say or do something that you may regret.
If you are at work, go home and breathe a sigh of relief. If you are in a group out on the town or in the pub, apologize and leave. Think about your situation. What caused your emotional breakup?
Remember only you can change your mood. So, take a walk. Relax with essential oils and or candles.
Pet your pets. Or go to the gym and let the adrenaline work for you instead of against you.