Stalking and Cyber Stalking – Desi Becquet

Were you stalked or know someone who was?


No one should be stalked. But if you have a stalker or suspect that you are being stalked. Then you have come to the right place. Here are some safety tips that will help you stay safe from stalkers.


Stalkers are not rational individuals according to Robert Hare Ph.D., However they do not suffer from hallucinations or delusions. They think they are normal. The truth is that most stalkers don’t have realistic social expectations and do not fully understand the impacts of their stalking behavior. As a matter of fact, it shows a person with a lack of boundaries and a low-level grasp of reality. There may be sociopathic tendencies.


This causes them to bring harm to their victims. The stalker’s obsession can lead them to harass, obsessively call, and monitor an individual.  Social Media is a favorite of some stalkers. Where else can they see and read about their favorite subject?


Tips That Will Help You Stay Safe from Stalkers:


  1. Contact the Police.


It might seem like overkill at first, but we highly recommend calling the police early on. The more people that know you are being stalked the better. And, if the police have your case on file, they can help you if the stalker does something illegal. AND  if you are in fear for your safety, don’t hesitate to call 911.


  1. Do Not Talk to Your Stalker.


You might feel the urge to tell your stalker off or even confront them in person. But we don’t recommend that you do this. Stalkers can be dangerous and oftentimes they have a  twisted reason for stalking you.


This could be because they have been rejected in the past, they want revenge, or they are obsessed with you. If you talk with them, you are giving them what they want. And you are giving them access to your life.


  1. Tell Your Family and Friends.


Again, the more people that know about your situation the better. Friends and family can help keep you safe and help you feel more secure. In addition, having someone to talk to about your fears can be helpful.


  1. Always Keep Your Phone on You


You never know when a stalker might try something. So, it’s better to have your phone with you. This way you can contact the police or call someone else to help protect you.


  1. Don’t go to Secluded Places Alone.


Especially if you are being stalked, you want to refrain from going to secluded places alone. Instead, stay in crowded areas, and travel with people you trust if you go on a trip or want to go for a jog in the park.


  1. Limit How Much Information You Put Online.


Social media can be a lot of fun, but it is also the perfect place for stalkers to gather information about you. We recommend keeping your personal information to a minimum online.


This includes not posting addresses or posting your current location online. Stalkers will use this info to get to you. Also, put your social media pages on private if you can.


  1. Keep Evidence of Any Incidents.


In addition, you want to build a case against your stalker. This means that you need to record any evidence and keep it safe. Screenshots texts, call logs and write down any incidents that happened. This way you can tell authorities exactly what happened in detail.

Finally, there is a great book that was written:

The Gift of Fear

Gavin de Becker.

Read it.




Cyberstalking From the Hollaback site.


  1. Definitions

    In legal terms, what is cyberstalking?While the definition of cyberstalking varies, generally it is the use of electronic communications with the intent to kill, injure, harass, intimidate, or surveil a person that would cause a person to reasonably fear death, serious bodily harm, or substantial emotional distress to themselves, an immediate family member, or a spouse or intimate partner.9 Some states will only classify behavior as cyberstalking if it includes a “credible threat,” which usually involves proving the harasser’s intent to cause fear for their safety or their family’s safety.10

    In legal terms, what is cyberharassment?Cyberharassment generally consists of electronic communications that’s intent is to “annoy, alarm, abuse, torment, or embarrass the target.”11

    What is the difference between cyberstalking and cyberharassment?While the terms cyberstalking and cyberharassment are often used interchangeably, the difference is based on the offender’s intent and motive. Specifically, the intent of cyberstalking is to cause harm or fear whereas the intent of cyberharassment is to annoy or torment.12

    What is doxing?Doxing is the act of “revealing personal information and documents to the public” by publishing it online.13 The personal information often includes identifying information, such as the target’s name, address, and contact information, and is typically done with a malicious intent.14

    What is swatting?Swatting is the act of making hoax emergency phone calls in order to provoke an armed police response from a SWAT team. The purpose of swatting is to harass someone believed to be at a specific location.15

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