Are You Falling Out of Love? A Self-Reflection Quiz
Relationships naturally evolve over time, and sometimes feelings change. This quiz can help you explore your emotions and understand what you’re experiencing. Answer honestly—this is just for you.
Section 1: Emotional Connection
1. When you think about your partner, what do you feel?
- A) Warmth, affection, and happiness
- B) Mostly neutral—not much feeling either way
- C) Frustration, irritation, or sadness
- D) Nothing at all
2. How excited are you to see your partner after being apart?
- A) Very excited—I look forward to it
- B) It’s nice, but I don’t really think about it
- C) I feel indifferent or sometimes even dread it
- D) I actively avoid spending time together
3. Do you still feel emotionally supported by your partner?
- A) Yes, they’re one of my main sources of support
- B) Sometimes, but not as much as before
- C) Rarely—I don’t turn to them anymore
- D) No, I feel emotionally distant from them
4. When something good happens to you, who do you want to tell first?
- A) My partner
- B) It depends—sometimes my partner, sometimes friends/family
- C) Usually someone other than my partner
- D) I don’t think to tell my partner at all
Section 2: Physical Intimacy
5. How do you feel about physical affection with your partner?
- A) I enjoy it and initiate it regularly
- B) It’s okay, but less frequent than before
- C) I often avoid it or feel uncomfortable
- D) I have no desire for physical intimacy with them
6. When your partner touches you casually (hand-holding, hugs), how do you respond?
- A) I appreciate it and reciprocate
- B) I tolerate it but don’t always reciprocate
- C) I pull away or feel annoyed
- D) I actively avoid their touch
Section 3: Communication & Connection
7. How often do you have meaningful conversations with your partner?
- A) Regularly—we talk about important things
- B) Sometimes, but conversations feel more surface-level
- C) Rarely—we don’t really talk beyond logistics
- D) Almost never—we’ve stopped communicating deeply
8. When you have a disagreement, how do you handle it?
- A) We work through it together respectfully
- B) We argue but eventually resolve things
- C) I shut down, avoid conflict, or don’t care enough to argue
- D) I feel resentful and don’t bother discussing issues
9. Do you still share your thoughts, dreams, and fears with your partner?
- A) Yes, they know what’s going on with me
- B) Sometimes, but less than I used to
- C) Rarely—I share more with others
- D) No, I keep things to myself now
Section 4: Future Vision
10. When you imagine your future, is your partner in it?
- A) Absolutely—I can’t imagine my future without them
- B) I think so, but I’m not entirely sure
- C) I’m having serious doubts
- D) No, I don’t see them in my future
11. How do you feel about making long-term plans together?
- A) Excited and committed
- B) Uncertain or hesitant
- C) Anxious or reluctant
- D) I avoid making future plans with them
Section 5: Effort & Prioritization
12. How much effort do you put into the relationship?
- A) I actively try to nurture and improve it
- B) I put in some effort, but less than before
- C) Very little—I feel tired or unmotivated
- D) None—I’ve mentally checked out
13. Do you prioritize spending quality time with your partner?
- A) Yes, it’s important to me
- B) Sometimes, but other things often come first
- C) Rarely—I prefer doing other things
- D) No, I make excuses to avoid it
14. When problems arise in your relationship, how do you respond?
- A) I want to fix them and work together
- B) I acknowledge them but feel overwhelmed
- C) I ignore them or feel apathetic
- D) I’ve given up on trying to fix anything
Section 6: Thoughts About the Relationship
15. How often do you think about breaking up?
- A) Never or almost never
- B) Occasionally, during tough times
- C) Frequently—it crosses my mind often
- D) Constantly—I think about it daily
16. Do you feel trapped or obligated to stay in the relationship?
- A) No, I choose to be here
- B) Sometimes I wonder, but I still want to stay
- C) Yes, I feel stuck due to circumstances
- D) Definitely—I’m only staying out of guilt or fear
17. Are you interested in or attracted to other people?
- A) No, I’m focused on my partner
- B) I notice others but don’t act on it
- C) Yes, I find myself thinking about others often
- D) Yes, and I’ve considered or pursued connections with others
Scoring & Interpretation
Mostly A’s: Still in Love Your feelings for your partner remain strong. Every relationship has ups and downs, but you’re still emotionally connected and invested. Continue nurturing your relationship and communicating openly.
Mostly B’s: Love May Be Fading You’re experiencing some disconnection, which is common in long-term relationships. This could be a temporary phase due to stress, routine, or life changes. Consider:
- Having honest conversations with your partner about how you’re feeling
- Trying couples counseling or relationship coaching
- Making intentional efforts to reconnect (date nights, quality time)
- Examining whether external stressors are affecting your feelings
Mostly C’s: Seriously Falling Out of Love You’re experiencing significant emotional distance and detachment. Your feelings have notably changed, and you may be questioning the relationship’s future. It’s important to:
- Reflect deeply on whether you want to work on the relationship
- Have an honest conversation with your partner about your concerns
- Consider professional help (therapy) to explore your feelings
- Think about what you truly want and need
Mostly D’s: Love Has Likely Ended You appear to have emotionally disconnected from the relationship. You may be staying out of obligation, fear, or uncertainty about leaving. Consider:
- Seeking individual therapy to process your feelings
- Having an honest conversation with your partner about the relationship’s status
- Thinking carefully about your next steps
- Remember that it’s okay to leave a relationship that no longer serves you
Important Reminders
- Falling out of love doesn’t make you a bad person. Feelings change, and that’s part of being human.
- Communication is key. If you’re having doubts, talking to your partner (and possibly a therapist) can provide clarity.
- Temporary phases happen. Stress, depression, life changes, or routine can temporarily affect feelings. Don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.
- You deserve happiness. Whether that means working on your relationship or moving on, prioritize your emotional well-being.
- Seek support. Talk to a therapist, counselor, or trusted friend to help you process these feelings.
Need to talk to someone? Consider reaching out to a relationship counselor or therapist who can help you navigate these complex emotions.
