It’s essential to recognize that emotional manipulators have a talent for distorting reality through lies, fibs, and misstatements. By doing so, they can easily confuse and control those around them. Be aware of their tactics and protect yourself from manipulation.
The Home-Court Advantage
in a comfortable environment can significantly influence your sense of empowerment during social interactions. Whether you’re in your own home or a familiar coffee shop, a comfortable space can boost your confidence.
If the individuals you’re meeting with always insist on gathering in their own space, it may be an attempt to establish a power imbalance. They could be putting you at a disadvantage by asserting ownership over their environment.
For example:
- When you have time, please come to my office. I’m swamped and can’t make the trip to you.”
- It’s quite a long drive for me. Could we meet at my place tonight?”
Listens Well?
When a person seeks control, they might ask probing questions to gain insight into your thoughts and concerns.
- This information can be used to manipulate your decisions in line with their hidden agenda. For instance, be aware that your answers can be used against you, especially if someone has ulterior motives.
- Stay vigilant and trust your instincts to avoid falling victim to such tactics.
Sympathy Misplaced
They may exaggerate events to make themselves seem more vulnerable. They may also understate their role in a conflict to gain your sympathy.
For example:
“I cried all night and didn’t sleep a wink.
” Well, you’re just going to have to explain why you’re mad at me again
They Engage in Intellectual Bullying.
Suppose someone overwhelms you with statistics, jargon, or facts when you ask a question. In that case, you may be experiencing a type of emotional manipulation. The manipulators presume to be the experts, and they impose their “knowledge” on you. Put-down
This is particularly common in financial or sales situations.
- For example:
- “You’re new to this, so I wouldn’t expect you to understand.”
- “I know there are a lot of numbers for you, so I’ll go through this again slowly.”They use your insecurities against you.
Be aware that people can and will exploit your insecurities. When they know your weaknesses, they can use them to hurt you. Their comments and actions may be designed to leave you feeling vulnerable and resentful.
For example:
- “You said you’d never want your kids to grow up in a broken home. Look at what you’re doing to them now.”
- “This is a tough audience. I would be nervous if I were you.”
What To DO
Trusting your instincts is essential if you feel someone is manipulating you. Apologize for any mistakes, but don’t dwell on their accusations. Avoid engaging in manipulative behavior yourself, as this will only worsen the situation. Instead, learn to recognize manipulative tactics so you can respond appropriately. Setting boundaries is crucial, especially if the manipulative person becomes desperate or more aggressive.
And how to tell someone is lying